Who’s ready for Blogmas? Yep! You read it. We are doing 12 days of Christmas this year and you don’t want to miss any day, trust me.
Happy new month friends! How is the new month taking you so far? I can’t believe we have less than 30 days to the end of the year! Although it’s been a tough year, we made it this far. That’s enough.
I have struggled with unlearning and quitting quite a few things, and even though I am still struggling with some areas, I have quit quite a few. (Wow! That sounded like a mouthful).
So…without further ado…
Unhealthy Habits I Quit
The comparison game
In an online and connected world, social media is a double-edged sword. On one hand, we can stay in contact with loved ones and friends across the globe, and have access to information and entertainment at our fingertips, but, on the other hand, it has invited comparison.
With everyone portraying themselves as being happy, rich, and perfect, this lust-worthy content has many times left me looking at my own body and life as a little ‘unworthy’.
Without knowing it, I was willingly inviting envy, jealousy, and thoughts of inadequacy into my heart that made me question my self-worth.
I am now ruthless with what content I will let into my space. Guard that heart.
Dwelling on my past mistakes
This one has taken me a long time to let go of. I feel like I have just started letting go of this. For a very long time this year, I let the guilt and shame from my decisions (which were based on my emotions), overshadow my present. It dictated how I viewed myself, the people I let into my life, it stunted my growth as a person and even suffocated me from seeing past my anger and resentment.
My life changed when I finally made peace with that dark history. When I realized that — God has forgiven me of all that I was letting weigh me down, and loves me anyway. If God can forgive me – it’s time I forgive myself.
The truth of the matter is that I am who I am today, because of what I went through. The biggest areas of growth in my life came from lessons I had to learn the hard way. So in a way – I should be grateful for God allowing me to endure those trials, and blessing me with the perspective and gratitude that comes from healed pain.
Looking for reasons to get started
I am a huge planner – something that can easily work for me or against me.
I may have an idea, but before I get it off the ground, I will have a million reasons why I should not get started.
Realizing that I could die at any moment without starting what I want to do or even say, has been enough to push and motivate me into not creating excuses, but spending time trying to achieve what I want to do.
Do it afraid. But do it anyway.
Living to please others
In my first relationship, (and not the high school or primary ones), I was so much into pleasing the guy I was with that I did not realize that I was losing myself in the process. I was losing my voice, my identity, and taking on someone else’s, just in my body. Thankfully, it ended before I completely lost myself.
At the time, I thought that if I pleased him, he would not leave me. I was dumb…wueh!
When you live to please others, you never really get to be yourself. Stop it before it’s too late.
Worrying about factors outside my control
2020 has shown me that it is outside my control.
I had so many plans for this year, and one by one, they just couldn’t work out. This got me really anxious for a while. I did not know what to do, but I was super stressed. There were days I cried because I felt helpless.
That’s until I had to constantly remind myself not to be anxious about anything, but to make my requests known through prayer and my heart’s desires would be fulfilled. I have had so much peace after that.
To be honest, worrying doesn’t solve anything. So do not worry about tomorrow!
What habits have you quit?
See you soon! (Sooner than you think 😉