For a very long time, one of my friends was reading ‘self-help’ books. Whenever we were together, books we were reading would come into discussion (mostly books he was reading). I realized that they were ‘self-help’ books and when I mentioned this to him, he would get super defensive and say they were not self-help books. See, for him, he took this genre as something negative – something for those who had issues they needed help with.
Well, I changed and started calling them personal development books, to which he agreed to. He eventually accepted the term ‘self-help.’ ?
To be honest, though, we all need help in our lives – no matter how small. It could be an urge you are struggling to unravel, you simply need motivation or you just want to live your best life, but have no idea how to.
Therapists and counselors are expensive – I am not even sure I can afford consecutive monthly visits. And that’s where these books come in. You can set aside some money each month, and buy a book that will help you. Better yet, just download the app AnyBooks and you’ll get these books for free!
What I Know For Sure – Oprah Winfrey
I have been listening to Oprah’s podcasts and what strikes me about her is just how much she is willing to share, in the hopes of changing people’s lives.
In this book, she talks about the life lessons she has gathered along the way – from launching her own television network, becoming the first African-American billionaire to being awarded both an honorary degree by Harvard University and the Presidential Medal of Freedom.
She has compiled them in such a way that as you go through each theme, there are lessons you will pick for yourself.
Outliers: The Story Of Success – Malcolm Gladwell
Have you ever heard that 10,000 hours of practice is required to achieve the level of mastery associated with being a world-class expert—in anything?
Malcolm Gladwell coined this phrase in Outliers where he tells real-life stories and studies of people who have succeeded in their fields. Successful people practice on honing their skill so when an opportunity arises they can seize it.
You don’t have to be like everyone else – be you, do you. Be different.
Also, what can a brick be used for? Yes, there are more uses than you can think of in the book!
Year Of Yes – Shonda Rhimes
As an introvert, I am usually more inclined to say ‘no,’ than I am to saying ‘yes.’ This is because of my fear – something I have also been working on a lot this year #thisisit
Shonda talks about how her sister laid down a challenge that for one year, she should try saying ‘yes’ to unexpected invitations that came her way. She reluctantly agreed and the result was nothing short of transformative.
In the book, she talks about the powerful impact saying ‘yes’ had on every aspect of her life – and how we can all change our lives with one little word. Yes.
On Writing – Stephen King
This is for all those who like writing – or want to write.
“If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all others: read a lot and write a lot. There’s no way around these two things that I’m aware of, no shortcut.”
Stephen King believes that most people have at least some talent as writers and storytellers and that those talents can be strengthened and sharpened with practice.
So yes, anyone can be a writer. Even you!
In the book, there are lessons you pick up on writing, “Writing isn’t about making money, getting famous, getting dates, getting laid, or making friends. In the end, it’s about enriching the lives of those who will read your work, and enriching your own life, as well. It’s about getting up, getting well, and getting over. Getting happy, okay? Getting happy.”
Keep that in mind even as you write ?
The defining decade: Why Your Twenties Matter & How To Make The Most Of Them – Meg Jay
A few weeks ago, I tweeted about my experience thus far as a twenty-something-year-old – and so many of my followers could relate. Even if you are in your thirties, your twenties must have been filled with this:
My 20s has been filled with so much confusion… But also, it has been filled with so much hope and new beginnings. Through it all, I have learned to trust the process… Ultimately, it always works out ✨
— Thee Freelancerist (@purity_lisa) October 8, 2019
In the book, Meg shares her experience as a clinical psychologist seeing people in their 30s and 40s who are depressed by having a “lack of vision” in their 20s. This book will provide you with some direction around creating that vision, so that you’re setting yourself up better for your 30s and beyond, instead of playing catch up later on.
Ebu get it and know how to live intentionally, claim your adulthood and not be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do. Remember, you are deciding your life right now.
What other books can you recommend? What have you read that has worked, especially in motivating you?
Until next time, all my love