I was on Twitter a while back when I stumbled upon a thread where someone had asked guys what their favorite book of all time was.
That drew me in.
Then I saw this book “Tuesdays With Morrie” and people were commenting about why this was their favorite book. Most couldn’t stop saying how much they had cried in between reading the book.
That got me!
20 years after graduating from college, Mitch Albom is a successful sports columnist. One night he turns his TV on and sees his former college professor, Morrie Schwartz, who is gradually dying.
When Mitch learns that Morrie’s gradual decline will ultimately lead to his death, he starts visiting his former professor every Tuesday for conversations that quickly become about life.
Like most of the non-fiction books I read, I try not just to focus on the author’s story, but to actually draw practical lessons from it. This was no different.
Live every day as if it were your last
Morrie is happy that he has time to say goodbye to his loved ones thanks to his disease, which is slowly moving him closer to death. Morrie calls himself lucky; I am not sure if, under the circumstances he was in, I would call myself that. He suggests doing what Buddhists do, which is: “Every day, have a little bird on your shoulder that asks, ‘Is today the day? Am I ready? Am I doing all I need to do? Am I being the person I want to be?’”
Although I know that I will die someday, I don’t think I’m ready?. Are you?
We may never really be ready for death, but because we don’t know when it will come, try and show your loved ones how much you care. Don’t wait for a special occasion to express your love, but make it a habit. Give your best to the world.
Spend quality time with your family
It’s funny how when I was staying with my parents through high school and university, I always wanted to be out with friends. Now that I am away from them, I find myself planning and looking forward to spending time with my family.
Life is fun with friends. But there’s a certain bond between family and especially parents, that cannot be shared with anyone else. So whenever you get a chance, cherish and appreciate your folks a little more.
Enjoy your emotions to the fullest
I am a happy soul – most of the time. However, I hide a lot of my painful emotions.
Morrie talks about how we should not hide any of our emotions, but let ourselves experience each emotion entirely.
If it is loving someone, love them with all your heart; if you are sad, cry until you can cry no more. This way, when the same emotion hits you again, you know exactly what is going to happen.
Money can never buy real happiness
I keep on joking with one of my friends that money is my love language ?. But I also know that it can’t buy you happiness.
“If you’re trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down at you anyhow. And if you’re trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.”
Keep that in mind ?
Marry the person with the same values as you — and treat them well
There’s more to a relationship than just love – values.
As per Morrie, people should get to know about other people’s values and beliefs; marry the person who shares your values and beliefs. A life partner is a very important part of our life. In our time of need, friends may come and go, but our life partner will be with us. During sickness, they are the ones who take care of us. Therefore, they should be treated with love, care, and respect.
Forgive others, as well as yourself
This year, I have struggled with forgiveness. The good news is, as I’m typing this, I’ve released that burden!
We tend to hold grudges in life. Even if somebody apologizes, how many of us — truly — forgive the person? We may smile and accept, but there is a huge possibility that we do not forgive them entirely. Forgiving another person not only releases a burden of one’s own heart but also makes us a better person.
So forgive a little more, and in the process, don’t be harsh on yourself- forgive yourself too.
I highly recommend you get this book for yourself and get to see other lessons you can pick for yourself.
See You Soon!